13/9/05

I'm just dead beat trying to restore everything into my new computer. It came and it is chio! Black... sexy colour. Anyway, i got it up and running except for its anti virus things. I just can't seem to get my mcafee working since its last update few months age. I can be bothered sia haha. Lazy.

The morning.... I went to teach band. Didn't see them for a long time so its time to go back for reunion. They are still the same, but the playing skills improved. Sound is stronger. Good good.

Its very late now, and i need to get going. ahhhhh

tomorrow is project day. 3 projects preparation for me. AA206, AB311, and GV01. Threeeeeee projects. Faint.

Slice of Life

Writing to Manage Anger

People have mixed feelings about anger. Some believe that ultimately it cannot bring any good and so recommend that we avoid it or let go of it. Some suggest expressing anger in some cathartic way so as to release the tension, some advocate that we suppress it. Some feel that anger can be a powerful springboard that can propel us towards making things better; that we can channel the emotions invoked by anger into positive activities.

None of them are wrong. But you do need to find out how best to manage your own anger. What triggers it, how does it manifest itself, and what are the consequences? Writing about your anger can help you gain valuable insight into what anger does to you and how you should deal with it.

When you have a strong reaction to a situation, writing about it can help diffuse the pressure. Remember to include a detailed description of your strong feelings including the facts of the situation. Remember to use as much space on a page as you can when you scribble. Continue to scribble until you feel tired or relieved. If you feel calmer and more lucid after all this scribbling, then this exercise is for you.

Another way to manage your anger is to write unsent letters. Many of us find it easier and more effective to communicate our thoughts to others via letters. Direct confrontation, either face-to-face or on the phone, may lead to the main message being clouded or overturned by emotions or angry outbursts. At some point either during, immediately or after you've written your letter, you will gain clarity about your part in the situation. You will also learn to evaluate your responsibility as well as the other party's responsibility in the same situation.

Writing an imagined or real conversation you had with the other party, can also help let out some of your anger. Start your dialogue with two voices, the letter "A" (for your voice) and "B" (for the other person's voice). Be sure to allow both voices time to speak. Another good way to verbalise your feelings about a frustrating situation is to write sentences that begin with "I am feeling ?"

After these exercises, review the work you've done. Write one action you could have taken to keep the earlier situation from accelerating. Write another sentence describing one action that the other party could have taken. Write down one positive action you are willing to take to change your anger _expression now.

Look forward to celebrating your freedom from past buried feelings. Remember that no intense feeling is worth ignoring. It's much better to express your feelings a few at a time, than to pay the price of those same feelings causing problems for you in the future.