09/10/04

Ahhhh starting to get headache from all those law law terms. Finished 2 lectures today. have been reading for 10 hrs straight. But just 2 lectures. I think I am very slow. Anyway nothing much happening today except that I hurt my bum after sitting for 10 hrs on the floor. Can't walk straight after standing up haha. Faint.

Slice of Life

"Self Esteem Part 2

This week, I'm sharing tips on how to cultivate a healthy sense of self-worth.

Many factors influence your self-esteem, and one of them is your ability to control certain things. When faced with a situation or something over which you feel you can't control, you may feel that it's due to some deficiency on your part.

Well, there are things that you can control, and others which you can't. There is simply no point dwelling on the things that are out of your hands and letting them break your self-esteem. Decide what you can control and change and act on them. For the rest, the best thing is to let them go.

Accept responsibility for your own happiness. Don't depend on people or things to bring you joy and fulfillment. You are not just a product of your genetic code and environment. Your choices determine who you are and how meaningful your life is.

Sometimes, we just can't help but worry. But realising that many of our worries don't materialise or are not as severe as we imagine helps us substantially reduce the time spent on worrying. Write down your worries. Sometimes, they appear loomingly large only in the infinite expanse of your mind. Monitor the worries you've put to paper. See how many of them don't come to pass.

Mistakes are opportunities. Even geniuses don't get it right all the time. Many of Shakespeare's works were really rather mediocre. As long as you continue working hard at your craft, you can be sure of success eventually. Mistakes are stepping stones to success if you learn something from them.

Be the best that you can be. Compete with yourself, not with others. National sprinter U. K. Shyam was quoted as saying that he once allowed himself to be distracted by the other runners beside him as he neared the finishing line. He has since realised that the only person he should be competing against is himself and simply give it the best shot he's got.

In life, risk is unavoidable. If one tries to live a risk-free life, one will never reach one's full potential. Risk-taking builds confidence. Once the fear of risk is eliminated or reduced, you will find it easier to attain your goals.

Nothing shatters self-esteem more than thinking and speaking negatively, either to yourself or to others. Speaking ill of others does more than just damage to the other party. In the long run, nobody feels good about themselves by disparaging other people. So grab every opportunity to think and speak positively, about yourself and others."

General Information

Heres some general information for my friends. This information comes from a researcher. Whether you believe it or not is up to you.

If one tells you that looks does not matter when he/she is looking for a partner, he/she is most likely telling a lie. He/she might say that its the heart that matters and all else don't. Bull shit.

When humans judge another person, he/she has already assigned weights to those qualities that are most important. When he/she says that looks is not important, it merely means that the weights assigned to looks is low, and it doesn't mean that it doesn't matter.

Take for example that a guy might look at the following qualities. 1) Looks 2) personality 3) Cooking abilities 4) voice 5) brain, and so on, he might assign them the weights from the most important getting 5 points, next 4 points and so on. After that, he will then guage the girl and give another point. After that, the overall mark is equals to the summation of weights times the point he has given to each attribute. Kinda technical right?

It is not that people really do this all the time, but it is done unknowingly. Next time when you are judging the person of the opposite gender, see if you are applying this method unknowingly. You might discover you are not as noble as you thought (not going for looks). Hey, and don't think that only guys do this, girls do that as well. Its a fair world.