22/2/06

Konbanwa. If you guys haven't notice, I've placed a tracking counter in my blog to see the number of the people visiting my blog. The tracking counter is adopted from another friend. Don't worry, I can't track who my blog readers are. Well, 36 in 2 days, perhaps 3-4 belongs to me. How glad I am that there are people who are concern about me. Or perhaps want to know more about my failures? haa. Whatever the intentions you have, I'm glad that there are people who even bothers about me. Kudos.

Home alone now. Erm, that is if you exclude my sister (dog). She is well asleep anyway... lazy bum. Or perhaps, always asleep!. I got so lost the whole day. Not a productive one. A quiz next week and I didn't have the mood to study. As long as it is a multiple choice, I am bound to do badly no matter how hard i study. Studying doesn't make a difference in the marks because either you know the answer or you don't know. Studying doesn't mean that you'll know the things required.

At least 306 tutorial is done.... 1 question a day starting from monday. So many questions to ask. So many queries on jounal entries. So many scenarios that might occur. Complication.

At one point in time, I actually don't feel like playing games, and don't feel like doing work. When I start to do work, I want to play games. When I start to play game, I need to do work. The mind is getting back and forth. I ended up staring at blank deciding what to do.

Can't help it but to torture myself by going for a job. Nearly died halfway, because there were cocktails in my stomach..... "don't even try to run after eating". More oxygen doesn't seem to help in making me more sober. Well, I survive anyway, or else I won't be here typing.

I need music..... so I pulled out my keyboard and flipped through some scores. To my surprise, I found that song. Played it for 2 hrs or so.... Somewhat difficult for this lousy pianist here. At least I played through the piece haaa, with stoppages of course. I just cannot imagine how people can sight read piano or guitar pieces. If i got 4 eyes, perhaps can. 2 see score, 2 see keyboard.

I'm level 25 in maple now. 5 more levels to class change!! then will be big headache. Page, Spear, or Fighter....? sigh

Slice of Life

Recovering from a Disastrous First Date

First dates. Most of us have experienced our fair share of less than favourable ones. In fact, some of them might even be described as "disastrous". Meeting a romantic prospect for the first time is a tricky endeavour, and if it doesn't go well, the effects could stay with you a long, long time. For some, the memory of disastrous first dates is enough to make them a nervous wreck on subsequent dates.

So what can you do to recover from a disastrous first date?

First and most crucial, forgive yourself. Most of us, when under stress, do things we wouldn't normally do. If you thought you talked too much, or not enough, if you laughed too much, overreacted to some statement, or done some incredibly unattractive thing, don't be too hard on yourself. We're often harder on ourselves than we would be on another person.

So show some compassion toward yourself. It's natural to feel nervous on a first date. And nobody gets everything right, not even people who are attractive, intelligent and confident. The only reason why these people seem to fare better than others is that they forgive themselves more readily, and get over awkward situations more easily.

Once you've learnt to forgive yourself for not performing as well as you would've liked on a first date, you can go on to forgive the other person. Yes, we may like to believe that we don't pre-judge or judge people superficially, but on some subconscious level, we all do. And that can very often spoil an otherwise great date. So do not expect the other person to live up to all your expectations. By taking for granted that first dates usually don't go well, you take a big step forward in emotional maturity. Unless the other person was abusive or rude, they deserve a second chance.

Now, if you did something awkward or that warrants an apology, follow up with a gift or flowers and a simple note of apology or explanation. Don't write off your chances simply because you think you did something out of line. Most people are more forgiving than you think, and besides, your willingness to try again might impress the other party.

And don't let the experience affect your self-confidence. You have many good qualities, and just because this person didn't recognize them, that doesn't mean there isn't someone else out there who can. The most important thing is to be honest; be your authentic self. You deserve someone who will appreciate you for who you really are.