9/12/05

Eiyo, morning rain loh, luckily i was already near office area when the rain started. So cold cold. Ah, wasted time from 8.30am to 11.30am again. But surprise came when another manager emailed me, "You are booked for this this this and that, help me do this this and that that." Woo, I was super happy, chiong down immediately. Wa lao, macham like sell backside loh. Booked.....

So, the whole afternoon = chiong those tasks. 2 main things, one delete delete delete, the other type type type. Wa seh, have to prepare financial statements for a dormant company..... sleep lah, audit for what.... faint. So how? Income statement 1 item only, balance sheet, 2 items on both sides. Then how? Notes to accounts, I looked through 140 pages of sample and deleted so many notes until left 18 pages. Wa biang, can do management by exception or not. That means, do the other way round. Take what you need, not delete what you don't need.

Anyway, that manager looks and sounds so friendly loh. Then hor, she expected me to do amendments on the hardcopy loh, but i did on the soft copy. I think I did over her expectations haa, well, a newbie here, what can you expect. Prepare the whole financial statements like during AA201 class? Preparing financial statements was my favourite, but now,.... so complicated.

One paiseh thing happened again. During lunch time, I went to China square and wanted to go to the level below. So I walked to the escalator, and just before stepping onto it, i realised its a going up one. Phew, luckily i didn't step on it loh. I think people around me will think that I'm blur ha. Yes I'm one. I'm letting too much of my subconcious to take over my body. oh no. stupid thing happens.

OK, at night is chiong time... I donno if i will be able to come up to type more haaa so, i better type now. steady! CHIONG!

ok now, i'm back to type more. Even though i'm quite drunk now, i still know what i'm typing loh. Anyway, thanks to the 2 sisters who treated me so well, and brought me home. I feel so paiseh that i dirty the car so much. Sorry about that. Even though i feel so blur now, i still wanaa blog because this is a memory. It has been so long when someone treated me so well. I really wanna thank her and her sister. Today is a test of my limits, and my hypothesis is correct. No matter how drunk you are, you will still be able to act according to your will.

Lastly, i'll still like to thank them. Thank you so much, and your sis. Without you both, i might die one the streets now. haa. Thankz. I'll still be waiting for the sms even though i cannot dahan. I'll be waiting. (Ops, I didn't manage to stay awake.... paiseh)

Slice of Life

Tending to Your Partner's Emotional Needs

Marriages are made in heaven they say, but eventually, every marriage has to come down to earth. The honeymoon "orbits" gradually decrease in passion and intensity, due to other priorities that demand our attention. More so, when the bundle of joy arrives!

Loving glances are gradually replaced by frowns, the stars in your eyes do not shine so brightly anymore, and your attempts at intimate conversation are punctuated by wails from the little intruder. You discover, as almost every married couple before you have discovered, that the feeling called "romantic love" has to be nurtured by a continuous process of meeting each other's emotional needs.

What is an emotional need? It is a deep desire within you that, when satisfied, gives you a feeling of extreme happiness and contentment. If this desire is unsatisfied, it leaves you with a feeling of unhappiness and frustration. This means that when a husband and wife meet each other's most important emotional needs, they will experience passionate love, and stay in love as long as these emotional needs are met.

But, each of us has different emotional needs, and even if both spouses have the same emotional needs, their priorities for each emotional need may be different. For instance, let's say that "love and romance" for one partner means "sex and recreation"; for the other, it's "affection and intimate conversation". Now, if such a pair would spend a recreational evening together, show intense affection, with deep, intimate conversation, it would naturally lead to sexual fulfillment. The result? Passionate love, since the most important emotional needs of both are fully met!
You, and your spouse, fell in love with each other because you both met some of each other's most important emotional needs, and the only way to stay in love, long after the honeymoon is over, is to keep meeting these emotional needs.

So, the first step for you, and your spouse, is to identify what your most important emotional needs are - those that will make you the happiest and most contented. What you would like your spouse to do or not do, that would give you the greatest happiness?

Once you've both identified your most important emotional needs, the rest is making sure that these needs are regularly and adequately met.



STORIES - This is Good!

There once was a king who favoured one of his advisors very much because he was very wise and always gave useful advice. The king took him along wherever he went.

One day, the king was bitten on the finger by a dog, and the wound quickly got infected. He asked the advisor if it was a bad sign. The advisor said, "This is good!"

The king's finger subsequently got so badly infected that it had to be amputated. The king asked the advisor again if this was a bad sign. Again, he said "This is good!" By this time, the king had lost his patience and sent the advisor to prison.

One day, the king went hunting in the jungle. In pursuit of a deer, he ventured deeper and deeper into the jungle, where he got lost. To make matters worse, he was captured by the natives who lived inside the jungle. They were about to sacrifice him to their god, but when they noticed that the king was one finger short, they released him immediately. Apparently, he was no longer a "whole" person and was deemed unsuitable for sacrifice.

The king finally understood his advisor's wise response "This is good!". If he hadn't been bitten by the dog, he wouldn't have lost his finger, and if he hadn't lost his finger, he would have been sacrificed by the natives.

He ordered the release of the advisor and apologized to him. But to the king's amazement, the advisor was not upset at all. Instead, he said, "It was a good thing you had me locked up."
"And why is that?" asked the monarch.

And the advisor replied, "Because if you hadn't locked me up, I would have followed you into the jungle. And since you were unsuitable for sacrifice, the natives would have offered me up instead!"

Nothing that happens in this world can be judged as absolutely good or bad. Taken in the right spirit, everything that happens can eventually lead to a positive thing. So when something unfortunate happens to you, don't despair? it might turn out to be a blessing after all.