28/10/05

A day of revision.... what can i talk about then? Well, there is a funny one. There is a new Thai show in the market right? Called something like "Tom yang goo" right? Guess what my mum said..... "Tom Yam Soup?". And then his previous show is "Onn Bak" right? My mum said," Kong Bah bao (meat buns)?" Faint. Ok, I wonder if i'll get sued for this haaa, but.... I think law can take jokes like this.... hopefully. Anyone going to blow the whistle? haa.

Well well, just when I thought 93.8 FM doesn't like me and stopped sending me all the Slice of Life thingy, I received a tonnes of email containing them. I guess the mail got lost in cyber space.... but they still managed to reach me. ...... So i wonder, whether I should post them all today..... I bet people will die reading them.. I will post 2 each day... so that people won't over read.

Here goes

Slice of Life (17/10/05)

Starting a New Journey

Do you remember your first day in Primary school? The anxiety you felt? The reluctance to let go of your father or mother? The start of a new journey can be an intimidating experience. And there are many instances in life when we may feel like the little child on the first day of school again.

You may be starting on your university education, going for your first job interview, facing a new independent life after a divorce, or beginning work on that new million-dollar account. Whatever it is, emotions run high during these times and if you find yourself overwhelmed, good. You're normal!

It must feel lonely to think that you're embarking on a brand new chapter of your life all by yourself. The truth is, you're not, and that's exactly why you're normal. It's okay to be flustered or nervous about starting something new. Change is one of the hardest things for people to accept. It sure would be convenient to stay within your comfort zone.

But if you were to completely avoid change, you would also miss the triumphs and joys of daily life. Great people you would not have met, enriching experiences you would not have had. And while we may think we can do without any challenges, it's those very lessons that we learn from the most. While we strive to be perfect and give others a great first impression of our abilities and ourselves, we lose sight of the fact that it's okay to make mistakes. That's how we learn!

Questions of whether you will fit in or like the new environment will always be on your mind. These questions can make you nervous because your natural reaction is to spot the uncertain then dwell on it. But by accepting the fact that you cannot predict the future, you will empower yourself to make the best of today.

We've all heard many times before to "be yourself" when meeting others for the first time. But it's more than simply being yourself; it's about being your positive self. Make it easy for others to enjoy your company. Take the time out to brighten the day of others by smiling as you wish them good morning. Focus on the positive and try your best to avoid complaining. Remember that others enjoy spending time with those who raise them up, not bring them down.

Also, people will enjoy your company if you enjoy theirs. Take an interest in them, their families, passions and work. Then listen to the answers! When you listen, listen actively and attentively.
Open your eyes, heart and mind to the new environment. You may not instantly love the new experience, but at least you will learn a few lessons along the way.

Slice of Life (18/10/05)

How to Stop Being Judgemental

Judgmental people wish their beliefs, their habits, their way of life on others. They look down their nose at people who don't live up to their potential. But, your way feels right, you say. Well, your way feels right to you because of who you are, and it IS right for you. But, it is arrogant to think that others should act, be, and make the same choices that you do. For all of our differences, as long as we aren't out there raping, killing and molesting, we deserve love, respect and acceptance.

During our personal-growth travels, we'll inevitably find things we don't like about ourselves. Many of us will learn that we are judgmental of others. We will realize that if not conquered it will erode our pathway to enlightenment. But, how does one change from being a judgmental person to being a person who accepts others for who they are?

Say you see someone in line at the post office. He wears faded-gray sweat pants, a ratty T-shirt, and dirty tennis shoes. In your judgmental days, you'd be aghast that he could leave home looking like that. You've judged him to be uncaring of her appearance, or you've judged him to be poor, or you've judged him in some other way. But, now that you are a student of personal growth and are trying to get rid of this unfavorable side of yourself, you see that there could be a myriad of reasons why he chooses to present himself that way. Perhaps he's in deep grief from a personal loss and so he does not care about her appearance. It could be any reason. The point is that he is who he is and you are who you are. How one presents themselves in public is none of your business, nor is it up to you to dictate how another person runs his life. Your way is right for you. His way is right for him.

Now that you know how to not to be judgmental, when the urge to be judgmental rears it ugly head, just think of all the reasons this person might have for doing what you deem to be the "wrong" thing. Soon, you'll have a new habit of going around with compassion in your soul for the people in which we share this world.

As a student of personal growth, your payoff is huge, and when you become non-judgmental you will indeed gain "forgiveness, compassion and peace." It's a wonderful feeling to be unsaddled from thinking ill of others. This is not to say that others will quit judging you just because you aren't judging of others. After all, they may not yet know that there is such a thing as being non-judgmental or of becoming a better person! All you can do is continue on your journey.

Remember, it's none of your business whether they are on a path of enlightenment or not; your business is with building a better you.